If you’ve ever felt “too needy,” “too distant,” or like love is always just out of reach—this is for you.If you’ve ever chased someone who couldn’t love you back, or pushed away someone who did—this is for you.If you’ve ever looked at your relationship patterns and wondered: Why do I always end up here? —this is for you.

We are taught that love means staying. Staying loyal. Staying committed. Staying even when it hurts. Love should not hurt. Love is challenging and every couple has challenges they should work through.

I am going to tell you a truth no one talks about: most relationships don’t fall apart because of one big betrayal.

Every relationship hits bumps. But sometimes, what feels like "normal ups and downs" is actually a slow drift into survival mode—where connection weakens, resentment builds, and the relationship starts to feel more like endurance than joy

We don't talk about it enough: sometimes love isn't enough. Sometimes, you can love someone fiercely — and still not be able to build a life together. Why? Because chemistry and compatibility are not the same thing. One is the spark. The other is the structure. And you need both to make love sustainable.

These 7 questions, inspired by the What Holds Us workbook, are a way to pause, breathe, and build (or rebuild) your love on something solid.